Welcome To Finding Love
Your Love Coach is a home for people looking for love or wanting to keep the passion and excitement in a healthy relationship alive. Explore the site and enjoy your visit. Participate in the forum. If you have a burning question about love or romance, just send me a note. From one hopeful romantic to another, I leave you with Pablo Neruda’s words, from Sonnet XVII:
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or where from,
I love you simply, without complexities or pride;
I love you in this way, not knowing any other way of loving
but this, in which neither I nor you exist
so close that your hand on my breast is mine,
so close that your eyes close when I sleep.”
7 Days Of Valentine
Though the whole world is still reeling from the collapse of world economy, Valentine’s Day continues to be the most lucrative day for merchants far and wide.However, this year, splurging just on the one day seems extravagant and quite, shall we say, predictable. Instead, why not give it some thought? Think about how you can stretch the undeniable romantic climax that is Valentine’s Day?Here are a couple of suggestions:Continue reading “7 Days Of Valentine”
The Most Romantic Places In The World
What is romantic to one person, could be blase or too exotic to another. We all have varying notions of what is romantic. So first, let’s define romantic.
Romantic is a place, a state of mind, or an ambience that lends itself conducive for two people to fall in love or keep the embers of passion burning. If that were the definition we were to go by, then romantic becomes highly subjective.
Polling people about the most romantic places in the world, the most obvious answers would include Europe, the Caribbean and places in South America. Therefore, let’s name a few that may prove useful to those who think it’s their kind of romantic place, either to propose, spend their honeymoon or surprise their significant other on their birthday or anniversary.
1. Paris - They say that it’s a city for lovers. I thought of Paris as a city of light, great food and wine, beautiful buildings, and strolling along Champs Elysees with someone you love can be the most exciting thing. Dine by candle light in front of the Eiffel tower, stroll down by the Seine, and have a picnic in the park. Paris exudes romance and has been charming couples for centuries.
The capital city of France, Paris is bohemian, artistic, stylish and is one of the favourites of all times for a romantic break. In Paris, it’s ok to start being poetic, as the place almost expects it of you. Let Paris stimulate your inner senses and awaken the latent romantic in you.
This city will suit any type of budget, however, it is still Paris and it’s not going to be cheap. If you have a bit of cash to spend, I would recommend the four-star hotel Royal Elysees as it is right in the middle of everything, beside the Arc de Triomphe. And if you want to pop ‘the question’, what better place than on top of the Eiffel Tower with the wind blowing freely through your hair? I know, I know, it may not be as romantic since that’s where Tom Cruise did it, too, but hey, do it with your own flare.
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Fear Of Being Single
Have you heard of the expression it’s better to be alone than to wish you were alone?
I’ve just had a chat with someone who told me that the person they fell in love with 5 years ago is no longer the person they live with now. And as a love coach, my question was: what’s stopping you from leaving?
And the reply was:
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Break Up To Make Up
Does breaking up with your significant other have any advantage? That depends: if you are in an abusive relationship, there is no doubt about it, breaking up and breaking away from that person is the best thing you can do!
But what if you still love the person but are extremely unhappy? What do you do?
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Valentine’s Day: The Aftermath
It’s the day after Valentine’s Day. How do you feel?
If you are one of the 90 million singles in the world, I hope the day went well for you and that you find yourself smiling and looking forward to the weekend and all the glorious things you will be doing tomorrow.
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Last Minute Valentine
Today is the day of hearts and I hope you all have had a nice start. Like I said in my previous posts, decide what this day will mean to you! It can be an exciting and romance-filled day for you, or if you decide to mope (if you’re single) and think that this day excludes you, well that is your call.
But as a love coach, if you are single, I would encourage you to shower yourself with love today more than any other day. It’s not too late.
Yesterday a friend surprised me with a phone call and before I hung up I asked him to pass on my love to his girlfriend and wished them a wonderful Valentine’s Day. He thanked me for reminding him.
So I said, “Make sure you do something different, something special.” And he replied, “What could I do?” To which I said, “Well, give her a handwritten love letter, for a change. Forget the card, and tell her in your own words how you feel. Just do something unique, something you haven’t done before.”
He went away happy. Next thing I know, he texts me and says, “I took your advice. I booked us a trip to Florence next week.” Now that’s spontaneity for you - and romantic as well!
So what about you? What have you got planned for today? And remember, love isn’t celebrated only on one day of the year. It is in the everyday.
Not everyone can afford to book romantic getaways that easily, but think of the object of your affection and what they would like. It’s not too late. And this way, it would actually be a surprise if you have indeed forgotten and were not too bothered about today.
Restaurants are such a cliche! Better to cook together or cook for your significant other. Write them a poem or a song.
And speaking of songs, I have chosen 3 of my favourite love songs to share with you today: Me Faltas Tu (I Don’t Have You) by Thalia, Come Away With Me by Norah Jones, and I Love You by Sarah McLachlan. Sing with them as I have provided the lyrics.
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Chocolates: Best Aphrodisiac?
I have yet to find anyone who does not like chocolates. How can they not love the heavenly sensual delight one experiences as soon as chocolate makes contact with their tongue?
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Valentine’s Gifts
Well, there are so many things you could get your beloved for Valentine’s Day. From $5 to $5,000 there are plenty of things you could get them that will certainly put a smile on their faces - and yours when they express their gratitude.
My friend’s boyfriend wanted to get her a bunny for VD, but she wasn’t too keen, and neither was I. He was insistent that since she spends nights on her own (he works in the evenings), a bunny would keep her company and that it’s really cute, he was certain she’d love one.
Of course I suggested my all-time favourite gift of all - a puppy or a rescued dog. It’s a gift of love within a gift of love.
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Another One If You Are Single On Valentine’s Day
Here is another list of what you can do on Valentine’s Day if you are single. Take your pick or pick them all!
Things to do on Valentine’s Day
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More On Single On Valentine’s Day
Great that you came back for more! I see that as a single you have a need for more suggestions on how to spend Valentine’s Day alone - but not lonely.
So here are a few more tips for you!
What to do on Valentine’s Day if you’re single:
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I am Dr Joy Barredo, your love coach. I enjoy helping people find love, move on from a heartbreak or keep the romance alive in their relationship. I am a hopeful romantic and a realist at the same time.