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Single On Valentine’s Day?

The one day most single people wish to delete from the calendar is Valentine’s Day. There’s nothing like couples walking hand in hand, or women carrying a bouquet of roses, or partners enjoying a romantic meal that says, “You’re alone on the day of hearts”. In today’s lavish expressions of affection in a capitalist world, it is hard to miss the red hearts and flower cut-outs in shops and store windows.

So what if you are single? Should you mope around on Valentine’s Day? Are couples the only people licensed to have fun?

Things to do on Valentine’s Day if you’re single:

1. It is vital that you bear in mind that you are not the only single in the entire universe. More than 90 million people worldwide will spend Valentine’s Day on their own! Take comfort in that - because you won’t be alone.
2. Now, having said that, the next step is for you to have a clear picture of what February 14 will look like for you. Are you going to get up in the morning all bouncy looking forward to how you will be spoiling yourself and doing things that say, “I love me!” or will it be a day of moping and a pity party for one? I say the former is more attractive. Who best to know what you want and what would be enjoyable to do than yourself? So plan the day - making sure you avoid places where couples will be hanging out if you know this will bother you.
3. If the possibility of spending the night on your own is not too appealing, then it’s still possible to be surrounded by people who are not necessarily couples and still have fun in the evening. What about hanging out at a local coffee bar or a bookstore cafe - if you like books of course. You can be on your own, without feeling alone or thinking yourself a loser.
4. If you are in a party mood - then throw one! Throw a singles party at your place or someone else’s, and you don’t even have to spend anything. Anyone who wants to attend this really ‘chic’ party should bring something to eat and drink that’s good for at least 5 people. Even better, ask people to bring a friend who’s single and they’re not interested in dating. That way there will be a lot of potential mates for everyone.
5. Have you ever had a date with yourself? On Valentine’s Day, you can choose to do this. You can order your favourite meal, rent DVD’s that you have or haven’t seen (best to get the feel good ones) and then perhaps have some time to listen to chill out music, like Northern Lights. Remember, it’s your evening! You can do whatever you want. You are your best company. And don’t be shy about doing anything that makes you happy. The best part - you can choose to go on this date fully glammed up or not.

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