Welcome To Finding Love
Your Love Coach is a home for people looking for love or wanting to keep the passion and excitement in a healthy relationship alive. Explore the site and enjoy your visit. Participate in the forum. If you have a burning question about love or romance, just send me a note. From one hopeful romantic to another, I leave you with Pablo Neruda’s words, from Sonnet XVII:
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or where from,
I love you simply, without complexities or pride;
I love you in this way, not knowing any other way of loving
but this, in which neither I nor you exist
so close that your hand on my breast is mine,
so close that your eyes close when I sleep.”
Moving on, Letting Go
Have you ever been in love? Did you get your heart broken at some point in your life? Have you experienced unrequited love?
Love can be bittersweet. When it comes into our lives it can be the most magical thing - or can cause the most painful agony, for a myriad of reasons. People who experience falling in love are fortunate. What did Samuel Butler say? “It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never lost at all.” However, letting go and moving on is not quite that easy. In fact it can drive one to distraction that they neglect their responsibilities, lose reason, sink into depression or worse contemplate ending it all.
The 64 million-dollar question is: how does one mend a broken heart?
A heartbreak is one of the most unusual kinds of pain. There are no physical injuries that you can attribute it to. No visible scars, no panacea that can be procured to heal it. It’s a huge emotional and mental pain that can be quite debilitating and triggers other emotions in us. Like most things that are important, it takes time. Time does heal - most wounds. But recognise that it is a process, partly that is within your control and the rest is up to chance and circumstance.
5 steps to mending a broken heart:
Continue reading “Moving on, Letting Go”
The One
This being my first post, I was in a quandary about the subject I should write about. Love can be so mundane sometimes, and yet philosophical at other times. However, I thought of casting my own pitch towards the perennial question of “how do I find the one?”
I can tell you here and now there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to love, much less finding that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with - married or not, whether it’s a same-sex relationship or heterosexual, May-December affair or coming from the same age group. At the same time, as you continue to read this, some of it may or may not apply to you. What I ask is you give this post some thought and get back to you me with your comments.
5 easy things you can do now to help you find ‘the one’:
1. Love yourself. Yes, you read right. It’s a simple statement and yet it can be quite contentious. How can I love myself? I should love others before me. The very reason I’m looking for someone to love is so they can love me. To each their own - that’s what I will always say. Just take my word with a grain of salt and ponder it a little. My question to you is: how can you expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself? Sometimes the other person needs to know why they should love you. What is so lovable about you? And they will see this, feel this, think this if you communicate this energy to them - that you love yourself.
I am Dr Joy Barredo, your love coach. I enjoy helping people find love, move on from a heartbreak or keep the romance alive in their relationship. I am a hopeful romantic and a realist at the same time.